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This is church

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

A few nights ago our team got together.  We sat around on couches in our living room.

We caught up on things that are going on in each of our lives.

We examined passages of Scripture together.

We were greatly encouraged as we shared different visions and prophecies that God has been giving.

We prayed together.

We took communion together.

We encouraged, prayed for, and prophesied over a team member who was trying to discern God’s will in difficult personal circumstances.  God gave her direction and she has since acted according to it.

Our time together didn’t incorporate every possible expression of church life, and it’s not nearly the only model for church.  It is church, though.  Church is not a building, and it’s not a meeting – it’s who we are.  I love the edification that takes place when we meet together with our church family.

Recognizing pride

Monday, April 27th, 2009

God has sobered me a lot the past couple of months regarding the danger of pride.  Pride was Lucifer’s sin, and I think if you could say that one sin is more deadly than all the others, pride would be it.  It is so dangerous because it is so blinding.  Think about this:  Unless your conscience is totally seared, you know it if you’re living in sexual sin.  You know if you’re robbing people, too, even if you refuse to deal with the sin.  You feel the sting of conviction when you gossip about someone.  Few people, though, know they have a big pride problem but refuse to deal with it.  Most people in bondage to pride have very little idea it’s there.

John Bevere explains that a prideful person will always become more religious.  Religiosity covers the pride, and pride keeps a person from seeing the religious spirit.  Nasty little cycle, huh?  That’s why Jesus said that many people who have done all kinds of great spiritual things will be blown away on the day of judgment to be rejected by God (Matthew 7:21-23).  What a scary thought!

I haven’t always taken pride that seriously.  I sort of assumed that as long as I was in “mostly good standing” with God, He wouldn’t be too put off by a little pride.  I recently realized how ridiculous that thought is when I started meditating on James 4:6:  “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble” (emphasis mine).  In other words, God isn’t just a little disappointed if I’m prideful.  It doesn’t slow down His work in my life a bit.  God is flat-out opposed to me if I’m proud.  Every good thing in our lives comes because of God’s grace, and He gives that grace to the humble, not the proud!  That got my attention.

I am learning that a prayer God is quick to answer is, “God, I don’t care what it takes, please expose every area of pride in my life.”  I never used to have the guts to pray that prayer, but now I do.  I am growing in the fear of God, and I see that pride can separate me from Him without my ever knowing it.  I don’t care what it costs me anymore, I don’t want to fall away from God.  So I’m asking Him to expose pride, and He is.

The trouble with a blind spot, of course, is that it’s hard to see.  Something John Bevere said in a sermon I recently listened to really helped me.  He explained how humility is simply fully trusting God in absolutely everything.  Looking at it that way, I have begun to see my pride more readily, because I can recognize a host of areas where I don’t fully trust God.  Until my life is 100% submitted to God in everything, pride has not yet been fully conquered.

Oh God, keep me from pride.  Expose every single area of it in my life.  Don’t let one little bit hide in darkness.  I only want to do what you want me to.  I don’t want to fall away from you.  Give me your grace as I walk in humility.  Knowing how susceptible I am to falling, I’m trusting you to keep me.  It’s only by your grace.

Strive no more

Sunday, February 22nd, 2009

I have been the king of striving. Striving is trying to do things (often good, God things) in my own way, in my own time, and in my own strength. God began a work in my life several months ago to break me of this.

I never imagined how thoroughly engrained striving was in my life and what a difference it would make to trust God instead. The freedom I’m experiencing as I break free from striving is remarkable. I am learning the truth of a passage of Scripture that is becoming a theme for me now:

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

Matthew 11:28-30

Striving is tiring. It wears you out. It puts a strain on relationships. It is full of worry. Trusting God is the opposite of those things. For the longest time, I never believed Jesus that His yoke really is easy and His burden light. But now that I am exchanging my burden for the yoke of Jesus, I’m finding how true His words are. I wish I had never doubted.

In breaking free from striving, I had to make an ugly confession: Not only did I not trust God’s words, I didn’t think He had a big enough vision. I subconsciously believed for years that if I submitted myself fully to God, nothing much would happen in ministry. I thought the only way to see things really change and progress was to make it happen myself. I feel like a creep for saying that, but that’s what I believed. I have repented of that attitude and now wholeheartedly believe that God always has the very, very best at heart. The way to achieve God’s best is to fully submit to Him and abide in Him. “Remain in me, and I will remain in you…Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me.” (John 15:4)

I’m finding it’s really fun to relax, figure out what God is doing, and see what part He wants me to play in it. I’m responsible to obey what He shows me to do; He’s responsible for the results. It’s freeing not carrying the burden of the results. It’s exciting to see God doing all sorts of things through me as I trust in Him.

Trusting fully in God is always the way to go.

One year blogging!

Tuesday, October 14th, 2008

This past weeked marked the one-year anniversary of my blog. When I started blogging, I stated 3 reasons for doing it:

  1. To keep a written record of the journey of our church planting team and the things we learn along the way
  2. To better keep in touch with friends and family, giving them a more behind-the-scenes look at our lives and ministry
  3. As an outlet for my growing interest in website development

Twelve months and 110 posts later, I’m pleased at what I have been able to do this past year with the blog. I have been encouraged in communication with folks back in the U.S. at how many of you seem to have a greater understanding of our ministry because of the blog. I am also glad that I have been able to record a number of lessons I learned over the past year.

As I look back on the first year, I would love to be writing a lot more about specific things going on with the church planting ministry, including what we’re trying, what’s working, and what’s failing. Sometimes it’s hard to get it all written down, though.

I didn’t start the blog intending necessarily to be its only author. One of these days it will be cool if Erin gets to post some things, so that you can see more of our lives through her eyes. She has her hands full, though, so I’m not putting any pressure on her.

The blog has certainly provided me a chance to tinker around with a website a little bit, although I wouldn’t mind more time for that, either. At the moment I’m starting to dabble with PHP coding a little bit, hoping to aquire a few skills to better customize our site.

For me, the India trip in April was the high water mark of my blogging this past year. I thoroughly enjoyed posting frequently, sharing lots of photos and insights to what I was experiencing and learning. My readership tripled during that time, and I loved the dialogue I had with different friends through the comments. I hope that over time my day-to-day blogging could look a bit more like what I pulled off while in India. Those two or three weeks were a good representation of what I envisioned a year ago when 520life was born. It was a significant time commitment, however. (If you missed the India posts, you can check them out by clicking through to the India category.)

All in all, blogging has been at least as enjoyable and about as effective as I had hoped it would be. As long as God allows me to continue, I pray He will be glorified through the pages of this website.

Is there certain news you want to hear or a certain topic you would like me to address on this blog? If so, leave a comment below, because I would be interested to know.

Honor the king

Tuesday, October 7th, 2008

Submit yourselves for the Lord’s sake to every authority instituted among men: whether to the king, as the supreme authority, or to governors, who are sent by him to punish those who do wrong and to commend those who do right. For it is God’s will that by doing good you should silence the ignorant talk of foolish men. Live as free men, but do not use your freedom as a cover-up for evil; live as servants of God. Show proper respect to everyone: Love the brotherhood of believers, fear God, honor the king.

Slaves, submit yourselves to your masters with all respect, not only to those who are good and considerate, but also to those who are harsh. For it is commendable if a man bears up under the pain of unjust suffering because he is conscious of God.

1 Peter 2:13-19

God has been nailing me with this passage lately, speaking to me about my attitude towards all kinds of different authorities. He has commanded us to submit ourselves to every authority instituted among men. In the second paragraph, note that He doesn’t just command slaves to submit to good masters. Even harsh masters are worthy of submission. Ultimately, it is God that we are submitting ourselves to when are subject to those over us.

I have recently learned that submission is not the same thing as obedience. Obedience is our outward actions, but submission speaks to our heart attitude towards those in authority.

To paraphrase Peter a bit in today’s terms, I think we can say: “Honor every authority above you, including every authority in the government, including those you don’t like or with whom you completely disagree!”

In this presidential election season, another good post regarding our attitudes as followers of Christ has been provided by Brian Bailey. Here is an excerpt:

At some point, though, we have to take responsibility for the tone of politics. Even though our discourse is largely a reflection of what we hear from the parties and the media, why should we descend to that level? Why can’t we do better? If you are fed up with how politics is practiced, let’s start changing how we practice politics.

The candidate you support is motivated by political calculation and a desire to win just like his opponent. He has compromised when he shouldn’t have, ducked when he should have stood up, and made many mistakes (and will continue to do so). Like all national politicians, he is a flawed man surrounded by flawed advisors. The nation’s problems will not be solved by his election, but he can and hopefully will makes things better, improve the political process, and appeal to our better natures.

The candidate you oppose is not stupid, senile, dangerous, different, or corrupt. He loves this country and has served it most of his life. He will defend our nation with honor and always do what he thinks is in the best interest of America. He does not deserve to be mocked, belittled, or hated. The snide and snarky only serve to make intelligent debate between reasonable people impossible, while escalating the smack talk arms race.

There are endless arguments to be made for and against each of these candidates on the issues, but why do we have to demonize and deify them in the process?

Good words, don’t you think? If you don’t agree, I challenge you to consider what it is you disagree with and why.

I encourage you to read Brian’s complete post. I commend him and others who are taking a stand this election against the slew of negativity all too often coming from Christians. If you think the message of honoring our leaders is for Kingdom people, then do your part to positively influence those around you.

God of all nations

Wednesday, October 1st, 2008

A few weeks ago, I shared my two cents on following Jesus during this election season in my post Who would Jesus vote for?. If you happened to read that post, you’ll know why I appreciated the recent post Church and Politics Don’t Mix by Kevin Hendricks, which included the following excerpt:

“…our cries should not end at God bless America, but continue to include God bless Iraq, God bless Afghanistan, God bless Ethiopia, God bless Haiti, God bless China, God bless Peru–as Christians we should seek for God to bless all the people of the world.”

We wholeheartedly agree and would chime in with an emphatic, “God bless Mexico!”

You can click through and read the rest of Kevin’s post, which mentions missionaries who have have seen a decrease in funding because of people not agreeing with their political views.

The lessons I learned this summer

Wednesday, September 24th, 2008

It would seem God has decided to use these few months as a refining time in my life. This has been neither something I was looking for nor something that has been particularly pleasant, but I am very grateful to Him for the results. In fact, at this point I’m beginning to embrace it. And the process is continuing.

Here is some of what God has shown me:

For a person who likes leadership and has viewed it as a strength of mine, it was disconcerting to realize my entire leadership style needed to change. In a sense, I can say I am beginning to learn true leadership for the first time. Leadership is influence, and one does not need a position of authority in order to positively influence others. What I knew how to do before was to manage. Managers, when in a position of authority, are able to use external controls to keep people doing what they should be doing. Take away the authority and controls, and a manager can no longer influence others effectively.

Leaders, on the other hand, influence others on a deeper level by inspiring them to do the right thing. This they are able to do sans external controls.

Example: I have been overseeing a handful of church planting apprentices who are learning Spanish. We use a good language learning program that is hard work but beneficial, and I really believe in it. I took on new apprentices who I did not know well at all, laid down all the rules about who they could talk to, where they could go, and what they had to do, and then cut them loose. They were frustrated by the level of control I exerted, and within months some of them were ready to give up and go home. I came to see that they had not bought into the system because I had tried to force them to do the right thing by giving them rules, rather than inspiring them with the way their sacrifices would pay off.

This was the first big thing God showed me, that I need to influence people through inspiration rather than rules. Interestingly, I have known all this in my head for some time. I have read leadership books, talked leadership theory, and listened to some of the best leadership speakers around. I could have given the right answers on any classroom test on leadership. I am living proof that you haven’t really learned something until you apply it to your life.

The next thing God showed me was the reason I want to control people. The reason I prefer control is that I often do not trust people, and the reason I do not trust them is I do not have adequate relationships with them. The reason I do not have adequate relationships, I realized, is I have not left time in my life for this. I have packed my schedule full of tasks, trying to make every little thing happen “for the ministry”, which left me very little people time. I suspect many of the things I have been running ragged trying to accomplish the last couple of years were things God never intended for me to be doing.

I am having to repent of controlling people, not trusting people, not having close relationships with people, and not making time for people. Each domino caused another to fall. This repentance is very much a process, because I am having to break very engrained patterns in my life. First and foremost, I want to have closer relationships with others. It’s all about people, after all. In the context of these relationships I will be a more effective leader. People are influenced by those they trust, but no one trusts someone they don’t know. I now see how trusting others and inspiring them is a much more loving and respectful way to treat them.

I am a few weeks into a process of trying to reorganize my life, get rid of unecessary tasks and demands on my time, and dedicate more of my best time to people. It’s not easy, and I’ve suffered setbacks. One disappointing realization is that I think some of the people closest to me will be among the last ones to feel the effects of my change. I am encouraged, though, by a few positive steps I’ve taken so far. If you were to take a moment to pray for me in all of this, I would sure appreciate it.

God is really good, though. This was a blind spot in my life, and He has been gracious enough and patient enough to show it to me and get me on the road to change.

What I need to learn this coming year

Tuesday, July 29th, 2008

Most recent years I can look back and see a definite theme or subject that has been the main thing God has been teaching me. For instance, my first year in Mexico was all about learning the importance and power of prayer. The past year and a half has been dedicated to simple, organic church principles and the importance of discipleship. I haven’t usually had an agenda about what I will learn in the upcoming months, but this time around I do. In the upcoming ministry year, (a ministry year for us runs from September through August) I really need to learn more about authority and leadership structure in the Church.

The past year and a half, my worldview has dramatically changed regarding the Church. I’m all about simplification, laying aside those practices that are unhelpful and/or unbiblical, and seeing people discover what it is to be the church rather than to go to church. It works great in the early stages of discipling new believers, because they can come together in homes or parks or coffee shops, pray and worship together, teach one another, and minister to one another. No building or salaries to worry about. No institution. Minimal structure.

I know we’re approaching the time, though, where more definite leaders need to be raised up from among those we’re discipling. I’m not sure Jesus had in mind the extensive organizations that churches are today, but it’s hard to deny biblically that some structure is necessary. Positions of leadership and authority did exist in the early Church, and they seem to be given a fair amount of attention in Acts and the Epistles.

This leaves me in uncertain territory. I understand that authority and leadership and structure must exist, but I’m not sure what they should look like. I have certain points of difference with contemporary Western models of church leadership. Also, I have recently been forced to rethink much of what I have believed and practiced concerning leadership and authority. So my big question is how churches are to go about setting up a leadership structure that is in keeping with biblical principles. Will it involve official positions with ceremonies and titles? Is authority earned or ascribed or both? If both, does one or the other have precedence? Was the structure the early Church developed exactly what God had in mind? In other words, should we study early Church history (beginning with the New Testament) and create the exact same structure they did, or was their expression just one of many possible expressions?

I don’t know, but I hope to learn.

If anyone has thoughts on any of this or would like to highlight pertinent passages of Scripture or other good resources, chime in with a comment. I’m already off and rolling studying Scripture, and I will have much more to do this year. I’m excited that Neil Cole of Organic Church fame is working on a new book entitled Organic Leadership. If all goes well, in the coming months to a year or two, hopefully I will be sharing many new insights on this blog in the area of church leadership and structure.

Who would Jesus vote for?

Wednesday, July 16th, 2008

I understand that many people, especially in evangelical circles, have strong opinions one way or another about the answer to this question. For a variety of reasons, I am mostly staying away from political stuff on this blog during the election season. I do have one thing I feel very strongly about, though, that I decided to share. I reject simplistic answers to the question of who Jesus would vote for, and I’m not at all sure that it’s even a good question. I do believe, however, that Scripture gives ample guidance as to the attitude of Christians towards candidates for political office, whether we support those candidates or not.

Below is the text of an email I wrote several months ago. Lest this be (mis)interpreted as my endorsement of a particular candidate, I would like to point out that I wrote this email very early in the primaries when, between the two parties, about 10 candidates were in the race. I wrote it in response to a forward I received that was very defamatory towards Barack Obama and largely based on sensationalism, exaggerations, misinformation, and at least one outright lie. I reacted strongly to the forward.

Here’s my response:

Good political debate about the pros and cons of a particular presidential candidate is a healthy and important exercise. But we need to check things out for ourselves and debate issues based on facts, not propoganda that others are trying to get us to help spread. See this article on the previously forwarded email:

http://www.snopes.com/politics/obama/muslim.asp

I understand that just because something is in the media does not mean it is a fact, but certain things can be verified, like whether Obama put his hand on the Koran when he was sworn into office, or if Obama refuses to salute the flag. Christians should be known above all others for being fair and truthful regarding all candidates, but I feel like sometimes we’re some of the worst. Defaming candidates with lies and half-truths is not a very good testimony…We need to be good about investigating things for ourselves, and not just taking someone else’s word.

I am not saying this as an endorsement of Obama; the truth is I have not yet decided who I will be voting for. But I think that as Christians we are called to fair treatment of the candidates. I have no problem with someone thinking it’s a bad (or good) idea to vote for Obama when there is reasonable, factual support for that opinion.

I’m getting this off my chest now, because if I don’t, all the email forwards that fly around are going to be driving me nuts by the time the elections roll around. Please understand that this isn’t an attack [on any individual]. I have been saying these same things in online forums and in a number of different conversations lately. I just want to encourage us to live to a higher standard this time around. This election season, let’s show an unbelieving world that Christ makes a difference in our lives.

In the political arena, I don’t think the biggest stumbling block for non-Christians is that Christians believe in God and (theoretically) want to see government run on His principles. I think the far bigger stumbling block is the distinctly un-Christian way we often conduct ourselves where politics is concerned. Let’s honor God with the way we act the rest of this election season. Remember, the way we treat people and the way we treat God can’t be divorced. He said, “I tell you the truth, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me.” (Matt. 25:40)

Something I’m thankful for

Thursday, November 22nd, 2007

There are so many things I could write about for which I’m thankful, but I will share just one.  It came to my attention a few weeks ago through a question a friend asked me in an e-mail:

Do you wake up most days with a strong sense of your purpose and excitement about how God is going to use you that day?  Most days, do you feel strongly that you’re right where God wants you to be?  Or do you mostly feel that way sporadically when you take a step back?

Here is the response I sent back to him: 

I would be lying if I said that every day I wake up with a strong sense of purpose and excitement about how God is going to use me.  Some days I wake up and wonder why on earth I’m so tired still, or how I’m going to get done everything that I need to that day, or if the Broncos will win…I think that would be my fault for not always keeping my eyes on God and His purposes, and instead getting caught up with all the day-to-day tasks.  I can say overall, though, that I absolutely have a strong sense of purpose and excitement about what God is doing.  Because I and the rest of us have such a heart for the unreached and for God’s purposes among all nations, I just can’t think of anything more important that I could be doing with my life or anything that I’d rather be doing, so that continually excites me.  And yes, I haven’t had a doubt in several years that I wasn’t right where God wanted me.  That’s a testimony to God, because by nature I’m more the type who would probably question that a lot.  But I haven’t had a doubt about that in several years, praise God.

I’m so grateful that God has allowed us to be a part of His kingdom work here in Oaxaca.  His calling gives me a sense of purpose and fulfillment each day that I can hardly even describe.  I often take that for granted, but I think there are a lot of people who don’t feel the same way about their lives.  There’s nothing like knowing your life counts for something.  I hope to help many others live with the same sense of purpose I have.  After all, where I am, the purpose I feel, and the burden for the nations I have is largely owed to other people God worked through, such as the founders of GFM, Grant and Jenn Haynes (to name just two).  And for that, I’m thankful.